Your person is supposed to be 100% supportive of you and your needs.

Life is going to introduce you to thousands of people in your lifetime. Usually, the ones who impact you romantically are the ones who will always have a special place in your heart. Sometimes, that special someone will influence how you see yourself, how/if you reach your goals, and how your next relationships will follow. It’s important to choose the right person for you.

Your significant other can definitely influence how you see yourself. If that person is constantly bringing you down, making you feel bad about your decisions, and treating you poorly, it might reflect how you begin to love yourself. You might eventually start to believe their words and that can be self-destructive for you. NEVER let your significant other tell you to change the clothes you love. Leggings, v-necks, muscle shirts, and take tops will never hurt anybody. If your significant other has a problem with what you wear because it might “attract” others to you, that’s an insecurity they need to work on, not you.

If no one else is behind your plans and goals, your significant other should be. Whether it’s wanting to travel abroad, dorm for school, or compete in a pageant, your person should be with you 100% of the way. It might affect how many times you see each other and it might not be what your person would like but if they really love you and want the best for you, they’ll go with whatever makes YOU happy. They’re supposed to be a great support in your life, not a downer.

Unfortunately, if someone is causing you stress, you might take it out on the wrong people. Being in a stressful relationship can lead to you lashing out on family members or your best friends even if the problem isn’t because of them. This can be destructive for you and your other relationships. Although every relationship has its ups and downs, you need to make sure that the person you’re with brings out the positive side to you.

Don’t focus on materials when in relationships. Material items can be gifted to you one day and easily broken the next, but feelings and memories last forever. Make sure whoever you’re with treats you with respect, loves you, wants the best for you, and never makes you feel any less than you are. That person should never put you in uncomfortable situations, put their physical needs before yours, or make you feel bad for what you love. Knowing your worth and making sure that your person knows it too is important in a healthy relationship. You’re both supposed to grow together and if you feel like you’re not, there might need to be a talk between you both.